What are you so afraid of!?
I’m REALLY sorry but it looks like they’re about to rap battle
Got them both, and shoes to go with them. She was absolutely in love with it all, and picked everything out herself.
When we got home, she told me she’s never been so happy, and that just makes me feel so good that she’s so happy right now. She’s comfortable and loves herself and that’s what I want; I love my little one, boy or girl. ❤️
For those of you who are not up to date on my life as a mother, here’s my updated.
For over a year and a half, my son Alistair has expressed the longing to be a girl. A week or two ago, he finally announced to me “Mom, I am going to be a girl now. I want to change my name.” He decided to go with Katniss (he’s unfamiliar with Hunger Games, he just likes the sound of it and cause it sounds like ‘cats’). He also decided that he wants to be referred to femininely rather than masculinely. He even corrects me when I slip up and call him “he” or “Alistair”.
She decided the next day, she wanted to get a short haircut after seeing a picture of me when I was younger with short hair. Today, she asked to get a dress for Easter. I said we would see, but no guarantees. We went down to the mall and checked out the sales that Kohls had, and she saw two dresses that she fell head over heels for, and begged for them. I couldn’t find out how much they were on sale for, so I held onto them and said maybe. We checked out a couple shoes to match, and we headed up to the register to see how much it would come out to (I’d say $40 for two dresses and two pairs of shoes that were all originally around $20-40/each is pretty awesome) and I looked down and saw her face with a look of concern and she asked “so can we get them?” And I said yes. She hugged me tight and said “YES! I am so happy. Thank you so much! And thank you so much for being my mom, I love you!”
When we got home, she immediately wanted to change into one and then came downstairs and said “Mom, I have never been so happy. Thank you for being so amazing!”
At her age, (4), this could go either way. It could be a phase and this is just play and later she will feel comfortable being my little boy as she was born; or she will stay this way and will remain my little girl. Either way, it does not matter to me. I am not concerned that she will grow up gay or that this will “confuse” her. My only concern is her happiness and comfortability. I feel that it is important to allow freedom of expression in children, and allow them to play, experiment, and self-identify without judgment. I encourage and support whatever she does, as long as she is happy with herself and loves herself; as a boy or as a girl. I will love and accept her no matter what, and I want her to know and understand that.
I understand that many people are not nearly this supportive of their children (or even mine, for that fact) and that she will likely be looked down upon and made fun of. But she is strong, and smart, and knows that with my support, she will make it through any and all of this. So far, we have had an overwhelming response of support and acceptance, and it warms my heart to have such loving and understanding friends; and it’s made my little one feel so wonderful as well.
I just felt that perhaps I should let everyone know what has been going on with me and my sweet one.
There are more charts if you click through.
I’m so glad this info graphic is going around, because so many people don’t realize how ageism and misogyny play hand in hand and how the sexualization of young girls play into this.
and how absolutely normalized it is via media such as popular film
Margaery Tyrell’s wedding dress (x)
From the “Just so we’re clear, I don’t love you, in fact I hate you” collection.